My Relationship Journal 22.
As a couple, it is not unusual to have moments where you disagree over certain issues as you will not always be on the same page.
Sometimes these disputes may become intense and words may be exchanged.
However, no matter how heated it gets, both parties need to have control over the words they utter in such situations. The wrong choice of words can escalate an issue beyond repair and sometimes jeopardize the relationship/marriage.
Today we will discuss things you shouldn’t say to your spouse when angry:
1. THE IN-LAWS
Avoid speaking negatively about your inlaws in an attempt to score a point or hurt your partner.
2. AVOID COMPARISON
Do not compare your partner with anyone else as this could erode your partner’s confidence.
It also plants seeds of mistrust and infidelity in your partner’s subconscious.
3. DO NOT CAPITALIZE ON CONFIDENTIAL INFORMATION
Do not use secrets or past mistakes that may have been shared with you as a leverage when you have disagreements. This is one line that is difficult to cross even after all issues have been resolved as trust has been broken.
4. AVOID LABELS
Do not use derogatory labels when you’re angry. Wrong labels cause negative perceptions. Especially when the labels refer to mistakes that were made in the past.
5. DO NOT JUMP INTO CONCLUSIONS
Do not take major or life-altering decisions in moments of anger due to a temporary argument. Such decisions tend to have permanent consequences on the relationship/marriage.
Make decisions when your emotions are stable and you have thought things through.
My goal is to help you achieve marital success & sexual fulfilment in marriage.
Blessings Always!
FEMI OLAITAN
Lead Pastor
ROYAL INHERITANCE CHURCH,
10, Itire road, ishaga b/stop, surulere, lagos, Nigeria.
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